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January 5, 2012

Disrupt Your Life

Disrupt your life, business, relationships, or even your body, and engage in the power of a new year!

You may have noticed that we as human beings have a limited ability to pay attention – you know, really be present – which is why we benefit from declaring publicly what we will pay attention to each year. What we pay attention to grows and thrives. This is what makes goal setting, declared intentions, and resolutions a sound strategy.

However, as a result of this inability to be present 100% of the time, we unconsciously design an environment to depend upon, which allows us to free up mental power and the ability to pay attention. To say it simply, we have an unconscious dependence on our environment to determine WHO we will be and WHAT we will do.

So, for real change to occur you MUST actively interrupt your current environment to see real growth and development in any area of your life or business. The loftier the goal, intention, or resolution, the larger the disruption must be.

Steps:

  • Declare your intention, goal, or resolution publicly.
  • Do not make the mistake of thinking you will only initiate behavior change from within.

You have to change the environment, or in other words, structures and systems that support the attitude and behaviors – the status quo.  Every way of being has an existing structure. Everything you do on a regular basis creates an environmental dependence. If you want to be another way you will have to tear down the structures that support the old way of being. If you want to build a new habit, you must figure out what environment would be conducive to that new behavior.

An example: Let us say that I wanted to change from being overweight and out of shape to being slender and athletic. I would have to change my schedule, what is in the refrigerator, how I shop, who I associate with, the clothes I wear, the books I read, and the shows I watch on television. All my systems (practices, patterns, policies and processes) would have to be evaluated for their ability to support my goal of slender and athletic.

Another example: I am a consultant who has been hired to identify why retention and productivity are so low. It doesn’t take long to identify the culture of hard work, sacrifice, and fear, conditions not conducive to retention and productivity. Some of the systems I will have to dismantle or change are e-mail outside of work hours, late afternoon or early evening meetings, what the managers do and say, how we acknowledge employees and what we acknowledge them for, communication lines, etc.

Again, when you are looking to create something new, or to change a condition or circumstance, you want to evaluate the environment that supports it and determine what needs to be dismantled and what needs to be put in place.

Time and time again I have had to reassure staff, our coaches, or clients that disruption is supposed to happen when people are in our programs. We are in the growth and development business for goodness sake :)   … we take people way outside their area of comfort so they can explore a new possibility. The first thing clients notice when in our programs is that all their old ways of doing things are insufficient for growth. This can appear to be a bad thing until conscious environmental design begins to occur.

There are two pitfalls to avoid when looking at what or how to disrupt, and therefore grow:

      • People in your life or business are the largest structure to dismantle, re-train or elicit support from. You cannot design an environment that is conducive to your growth without including others.
      • Do not underestimate small environment changes.  The simplest of changes can make all the difference. For example; you have a solid declared commitment to eat healthy yet you eat poorly at night and can’t seem to change. Each night you sit in front of the TV and eat whatever you want, while relaxing in your favorite chair. You might: rearrange the living room, move the TV, sit in a different chair, create a family dinner night where everyone sits in the dining room with TV off. Maybe you just get support from your family with never eating while watching TV? Even just one of the environment changes could be the difference.

For more support in having an unprecedented year, consider engaging in one or more of our upcoming programs:

  • Inspired Goals Webinar on January 12, 2012 – Join us for an enlightening look at how to set goals that inspire, motivate and support your vision. Give yourself the time and space you need to create your goals this year. You have never done a course quite like this one. People who participate report breakthrough results all year long!
  • Leading Change Program starting March 21, 2012 – Learn how to cope with yown fear and lead others through change.  Understand self, manage self, understand others, and manage others.
  • One-on-one coaching with one of our professional coachesOur coaches help clients achieve measurable transformation in realizing their personal and professional goals.

I look forward to sharing this adventure with you!

Many blessings,
Alicia Marie Fruin

 

People Biz, Inc. is a coaching and training company that helps clients to achieve measurable transformation in realizing their personal and professional goals. Owner Alicia Marie Fruin has since been coaching, training and helping business owners for over 12 years. Her years of experience as a professional coach, workshop leader and entrepreneur have allowed her to help individuals and businesses reach their optimal potential, improving productivity and increasing profits. More information on coaching and training services offered by People Biz, Inc. can be found online at www.peoplebizinc.com or by calling (512) 989-2230.

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December 31, 2011

“The Gift of Presence” by Ellen Palmer

“This year I was given a present so valuable that I couldn’t possibly keep it all for myself.   So today, I am paying it forward.

It all started this summer when I had a simple accident at the shore that resulted in a serious concussion.  I tried blowing it off, but ended up with a CAT scan and the following advice from my doctors “no activity and absolutely no multitasking until the headaches subside in a few months.” A few months?!  They further explained that no activity meant no TV, no reading, no movies, no talking on the phone, no running, jumping or playing, no computer and no working.   Seriously, there wasn’t much left except staring at the wall, sleeping, and observing.   So that is what I did, I observed the following:

1)    We are bombarded with noise, images and multiple simultaneous tasks all day. It’s amazing that we can hear ourselves think let alone be present to truly listen to someone else.

2)    We are rushed and we are rushing.

3)    Because we live in this rushed, distracted world, it is very hard to stay focused on who we are with or what we are doing at the time.  We are not truly engaged in the moment.

4)    If we aren’t present in the moment, we aren’t really listening and connecting with those around us.  We are disconnected, separate and often at odds.

5)    If we are at odds, we aren’t usually feeling happiness or comfort, but we are too busy to know how to fix it.   Good news ~ I now know.

Because we couldn’t have any noise in the house this summer, I would sit with my family at night and we would talk or play cards together.  There weren’t any “screens” to distract us and we had some of the best conversations we’ve had as a family.   We truly engaged with each other because we weren’t rushed.   We were actually paying attention to what each of us had to say!   We were present in the moment.  We all felt loved and that time together was one of the most rewarding, unexpected gifts I have ever received.

Many of us are missing the truly joyful connections that come from being present in the moment. Perhaps like us, you didn’t intend to be distracted or disconnected from the ones you love.  It just happens.   When life returned to normal after the concussion for us, we crept back into a few bad habits, but we now know what to do.  We took the “day off” together yesterday, went out to lunch and went to the movies.    We made time to truly engage with one another.

The holidays are the perfect time to reconnect.   Perhaps the least expensive, yet most rewarding gift you can give this year is your presence.”

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Ellen Palmer is a People Biz client that attributes her recent positive changes and insights to her participation in the Leading Change Program.  Ellen Palmer is a Holistic Health Counselor, LIfestyle Change Coach and Public Speaker. She works with individuals to help them achieve optimal health through nutrition and lifestyle changes. She address digestive issues, symptoms from menopause, weight loss, Candida, Fibromyalgia, Diabetes and other chronic conditions. Ellen also hosts workshops and does public speaking on wellness topics such as: Hitting the Restart Button~ Integrating Healthy Habits In The New Year; Healthy Foods That Are Making You Sick, Sugar And The Mood Food Connection, Wellness In The Workplace and others.

February 10, 2011

The Coaching Clinic: Coaching Skills for Managers

Two Day Course

Next Public course is March 31st – April 1st in Bellevue, Washington. 

The Coaching Clinic Brochure | Training Registration Form  

Coaching is the quickest and most effective method for developing your employees. A fun, highly participative and practical course designed to provide you and your managers with the tools and skills needed to become an outstanding coach. HCRI Approved Hours: 11.5 hours! Course includes a coaching session with Trainer Alicia Marie as well as a DISC Assessment.

* Learn powerful and effective techniques that help you seize daily coaching situations.

* What coaching is about, why it is effective and how to implement it in the workplace.

* Learn how to make the traditional switch from “Command and Control” style management to collaborative and supportive coaching.

* The use of behavior assessments and how they apply when coaching.

* Identify goals and create action plans with employees.

* Promote learning and discovery in your business.

* Accountability – what it takes and how to infuse your company culture with it.

* Personal Foundation – modeling “Real Power” in the workplace.

I attended a Coaching Clinic that Alicia Marie presented and was amazed at the knowledge that I gained! I originally signed up for just the PHR credit, but left with a whole new awareness of myself, those that I work with and am surrounded by. On a conference call with my supervisor and a few Execs’, we were discussing another employee and it hit me what type of personality each member of the call was! With this newfound knowledge I was able to guide the conversation so everyone was on the same page and I left feeling I now knew exactly how to relate to those that I support daily. I would recommend Alicia’s Coaching Clinic to anyone. I promise you, you will come out of this clinic with a new perspective in everything you deal with!

– Michelle Lopez, PHR , HR Director

June 21, 2010

The Middle Way is Very Simple ~

The middle way is very simple. Keep it simple and you will find the balance you have been yearning for. All extremes are fear based and destructive. Should you eat all the time? Well no, that would not be good for you. Should you stop eating all together? No, that would not be good for you. I could ask you the same questions around exercise,  work, play, relationships and on and on.  From science, we know that if you pull a pendulum 30 degrees to the right it will swing 30 degrees to the left. You do not need a philosopher to understand this.  

Sometimes an extreme solution feels like a good idea. For example; if you are always alone, eat alone, go to movies alone, watch TV alone, and work alone. Being in a relationship where you are together all the time may sound good to you. The reason it seems like a good idea is that you are living in the opposite extreme. However, if you then entered into that relationship, it would not be long until you needed your space. Learning to swing your pendulum less to the left or to the right is the middle way. The middle way is that place where you are not forcing or pushing against anything.  

The energy is balanced. You must first realize that everything has its opposite. This means everything has a middle point as well. Awareness of this makes the middle way possible. When you stop swinging between the opposites, you will discover far more energy than you ever imagined. What takes others hours will start to take you minutes. The things that wear other people out will not even faze you. You will learn how to manage your energy efficiently. 

I am saying that most of us waste tremendous energy on extremes. The inefficiency of your actions are determined by how off center you are. When you spend lots of time trying to maintain an extreme, nothing moves forward. You get stuck in a rut. You become stuck working too hard or too little, eating too much, not sleeping, being depressed.  

How do you find the middle way? How do you stop the pendulum from swinging back and forth so violently? Amazingly enough, you do this by leaving the pendulum alone. It will not keep swinging to extremes unless you feed the extremes with energy. Stop participating in the extremes and your pendulum will come to center. You will be filled with energy because you have stopped wasting it on extremes.  

This is quite different from how most people live. Someone cuts you off in traffic and you could be upset for an hour or more! If you are operating it the middle way.  Things happen and they pass. You do not get pulled into upset easily. Someone cuts you off in traffic and you feel pulled towards upset…then being aware, you open your heart, release and move on. Continuous upset is a signal that you are operating in an extreme. We all get out of balance. It can be a great way to discover the middle way actually.  

Awareness of your emotions will keep you from being stuck. The middle way is blind. You cannot see where you are going instead you use your cane to feel where you shouldn’t go thus finding your path.  

Excerpt from Healthy Solutions Program http://www.peoplebizinc.com/lifeworks/healthy-solutions/ 

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May 19, 2010

Possibility Thinking: So You Think You Have it Figured Out?

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity.  ~ Einstein

The cycle of natural learning is curiosity> inquiry> knowledge> application. 

We are wired to naturally learn as we go through life.  However, many of  us so called “adults”  however seem to  have given up on this type of thinking and learning, opting instead for finding the “right’ answer.  Why is being “right” more important than learning? 

We all do it in one way or another…  reach for what we know versus what we could learn? I guess it is easier? If I already know how my husband is there is no need to listen, inquire or really communicate. If I already know how my employer is there is no reason to ask for a raise.  The list goes on and on.  Maybe it is some kind of risk management mechanism that our mind likes to play? Keeping us from really engaging in life. Life becomes dry and uneventful. We have been there done that.

As a result, many of us have stopped learning.  The job of a coach is to develop people’s natural ability to grow and learn. When we open ourselves up to the question versus the answer anything becomes possible. Our child-like wonder is awakened.  We experience more and more joy. Opportunities arise. Why? When we are in “the know” we cannot see our own incompetence. Unfortunately, the people around us can! We stay blind to what would be possible if we were to stretch and grow. 

To start opening up to what you could learn, just ask yourself:  “What could I become curious about?”  Or challenge yourself:  “Maybe I could learn something here?” or “What if that isn’t true?”  The question is always more powerful than the answer. Start with all the places you are absolutely certain you are right. Start questioning the validity of your point of view. Be curious, not judgmental. There is a night and day difference. Play with possible points of view, ask: ” How else could someone see this?” or ” what is another possible way to interpret that?” . Remember, your point of view is limited to what you can see. From wherever you are, you can only see part of something.  Thinking our way or opinion is right is what shuts learning and growing down.  All of your answers come from the past.  Aren’t you tired of living there?    

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July 9, 2009

Halfway through the Leading Change program… Hear what participants have to say!

“The Leading Change series has helped me to better understand the importance of self care, self expression, and clear intentions in being an effective leader to others. Through a progressive series of coaching conversations, theoretical models, and development exercises, I have created breakthroughs in leadership that have re-energized me and moved me closer to fulfilling my purpose in life.”

Karina Miller – Human Resources Specialist

“I highly recommend the Leading Change program for anyone ready to take that next step of personal growth as a leader. The synergy of working with a group of highly-talented, committed individuals in a safe environment has been life-changing. Leading Change should be on every leader’s calendar for this year.”

Pam O’Bryant, Manager

 

“I have so much energy now that I have identified and freed myself up emotionally!”

Lois Pearson, Business Owner

 

“The Leading Change program has changed my life in a profound way. It is an intense program asking students to be courageous and to dig deep to look at their fear and then transform that fear into power. I thought since I had been through years of intense counseling and many other coaching programs that I knew my motivators. It turns out I was close but then with Alicia’s probing and kind of proding, she brought me to be very clear on the specific fear that was holding me back so I could come to the other side of fear: standing in your power; standing in leadership.

Coming into focus with my fear and being very specific about how it feels and how it has affected my life has allowed me to step back and notice others fear and to have compassion and love toward them as they too identify and notice behaviors that stem from fear. This has allowed me to choose to remain in my own center, notice their fear and how it shows up for them and not be affected by their fear. I can notice and choose my own behaviors that now are generated from a place of love and power versus being generated by fear.

Alicia is a talented, fun, spiritually and practically grounded coach and mentor. While guiding me in the deepest way with honor and respect she also teaches me to laugh at my human-ness and play with new experiences. She is one of the most gifted coaches I have ever had the honor to work with.”

Ann Marie Archer, Business Owner

 

New Leading Change program starts July 24th. Click here for more information or call us at (512) 989-2230.